New Mom Opened A Friend’s Wedding Invitation, Finds A Note That’s Pissing Off Breastfeeders



When Ceara’s husband was chosen to be the best man at a friend’s wedding, the couple was very excited. They were in the process of making the necessary arrangements to be present on the big day when they received their invitation. This shouldn’t have been a very big deal at all. All they needed to do was fill out their RSVP card and be on their way, right?

Ceara was pregnant when the invitation arrived. When she took the time to read it, she couldn’t help but notice that there was a message included that seemed to be aimed directly at her. The note let her know that mothers who would need to breastfeed during the ceremony would be given a secluded area to do so. This passive aggressive message did not sell well with Ceara.

After all, why should anyone have to take their breastfeeding to a far off location? While the note professed to be accommodating, Ceara perceived it as more of a passive aggressive attack. We are inclined to agree. When a child is hungry, they should be able to receive nourishment without any sort of hassle. Ceara’s initial response to the request was not favorable.

Once she took a step back and thought more about the situation, she realized that this was the couple’s special day. She did not agree with their decision. But she also realized that it was their right to make the choice. She decided that she would leave her babies with a sitter for the special occasion. Ceara missed them terribly, but she decided to persevere.

She became enraged all over again when she took a look at the “breastfeeding” area. The area was located in the bathroom and consisted of little more than some chairs outside of the stalls with a few blankets mixed in. She made a meme of the photo and it soon went viral. In her mind, an adult doesn’t eat their meals in the bathroom. So why would a baby?

Facebook page “Breastfeeding Mama Talk” had to say this regarding the viral note:

This is disgusting, but unfortunately this is not surprising. It’s never okay to expect or demand that a mom breastfeed in a private area. Even if the private area isn’t a bathroom nursing nooks/rooms are for the mom and babies comfort not everyone else’s. How would you feel if your family and friends knew you breastfed and went out of their way to insist you breastfeed in a bathroom? What is also ironic is she was going to leave her children at home and have her friend wet nurse and they weren’t okay with that either.

“This was in the invitation to my husband’s best friends wedding. My husband is the best man so it will just be me in the crowd. We have had several arguments over “my” breastfeeding ways and they have multiple times voiced that I need to go elsewhere to do that in “private!” I was going to just be nice and let my best girl friend watch my two kids (ages 2 and 3 months) and she would wet nurse my youngest (she’s still nursing her 2 year old as well) because we haven’t found a bottle my youngest will take yet and wet nursing doesn’t bother me. Hubby and I were just gonna make it a date night… But apparently that wasn’t okay either. so I said would just bring my littlest baby to the wedding then, but no way in hell I will leave and nurse her in the bathroom (no matter how “nice” they make it!) I don’t eat in the bathroom I’m not feeding my child in there!… I want to be “nice” as possible but what should I do!? Go ahead and leave her with my friend (who by the way has nursed her multiple times) or take her!? Help!”

Ceara did not want to cause a stir at the wedding of her husband’s best friend. The stigma that still exists when it comes to breastfeeding in public continues to exist though. If you are someone who still finds the idea of a woman breastfeeding in public to be appalling, then guess what? This says a heck of a lot more about you than it does them!


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