Sending Cards To Someone You’re Note Dating On Valentine’s Day Is Harassment, Says Expert


It’s hard to believe that February 14 is almost upon us. The clock is ticking and many people will look to that day to tell someone exactly how they feel.

Don’t be too quick to run out and grab that big heart-shaped box of chocolate. As it turns out, there are people out there who think such a romantic gesture might just be a little on the creepy side.

Annabelle Knight is a sex and dating expert. She claims that it is only those who are already in a relationship with the sender that should receive such a gift.

She said the following in an interview: “Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love. It’s just something that is between two people who are romantically involved, whether that’s long term, short term, or very new.

“Sending out Valentine’s cards to people who (you aren’t dating) is like cold calling, it’s just a little bit unnecessary. It’s hiding behind a holiday to express your intent – if you can’t say the words at any other time of year then you probably shouldn’t say them on Valentine’s Day.”

Not all ‘experts’ are standing in her corner.

Charlotte Rose is another relationship expert who feels Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity to tell someone how you have been secretly feeling, especially if you tend to be shy.

“You’ve got to think that people who don’t have that confidence will save up those 12 months just to be able to send it out on that day and I think taking people’s confidence away…Valentine’s Day and harassment shouldn’t be in the same sentence, they really shouldn’t. I think this is where PC has just gone way too far,” she said.

People were quick to debate the subject on Twitter, with many saying the idea was preposterous:

One person wrote: “Oh please can we stop with all this nonsense now, it’s a bit of fun someone showing you they fancy you. I still have 2 cards I got when I was a teenager (I am 40 now) I don’t know who sent them and in no way did I feel harassed.”

A second added: “Wasn’t Valentine’s Day initially all about sending anonymous cards? It’s a bit of fun and people love to receive a card. Harassment my backside!”

A third view said: “It’s getting so we cant speak or interact with anyone for fear of ‘offending’ or ‘harassing’ them. Common sense has left the building.”

So, the question needs to be asked. If you aren’t able to send strangers really intense romantic messages on Valentine’s Day, when can you send them?


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