Many parents are frustrated over the stubborn streak they may see in their child. If you fall into that category, you can actually look toward the future with hope. As it turns out, the defiant behavior your child is displaying may be an early predictor for financial success.
You heard that right, the stubborn streak in a child that fights against parental authority may just mean that they will grow up to have a big bank account. You may want to rethink your frustration the next time they fly in your face over any little issues.
A study that spanned decades and started in 1968 took a look at children 8 and 12 years of age. A number of different student characteristics were examined in the ‘MAGRIP’ study. The study lasted for 40 years and was completed in 2008. Some of the many characteristics that were studied included in patience, a sense of inferiority, inattentiveness, pessimism, and responsibility. They also looked at rule breaking and defiance of parental authority.
The study determined that rule breaking and defiance was actually a sign that they could end up with a high-level of financial income. According to the study, these children are more likely to fight for their goals and will be more demanding when they enter into a critical time of their life. This could include negotiating salaries.
This may be good news but if the thought of your child’s wealth is not getting it done for you, you may need to help them look at authority in a better way. Here are some ways to achieve that goal:
6 Tips for Handling Defiant or Stubborn Children
1. Stay calm
Losing your cool when your child is out of line only tends to escalate things. It is time for you to take a deep breath and a calmer look at the situation. After you cool down a little, step back in and allow them to say their piece and then come back with whatever is necessary.
We all want to be heard and your child is the same. They may not be able to communicate in an adult manner but by listening, you can identify the problems that are truly behind the issue.
3. Establish a connection but don’t impose your will
We may sometimes want to overpower a child who was acting defiantly but this will likely lead to resentment. Try connecting with your child when there is a rebellious streak. Show them that you also struggle with similar problems and help them to overcome their issues.
It is not always necessary to rule with an iron fist. Sometimes giving in on small things when it is appropriate can go a long way to helping both of you to benefit.
5. Be a leader
Children will naturally follow their parents when they see what they are doing. Show your child that you are the understanding individual who is willing to negotiate with an open mind and they will return with a similar treatment.
6. Consider your options
Don’t simply put your child in a corner; give them options. If you tell them that they have to eat ‘now’ it may make them feel trapped and they could rebel. Giving a child an option of when or how to do something allows them to give input into the situation.