One thing that concerns most of us when it comes to going to a special event is the dress code. That is especially true as far as a wedding is concerned but if there isn’t any specific style that is outlined, you typically are on your own to make the choice as to what is best.
Liz Krueger is a nutrition and fitness coach who was asked to attend a wedding in June. It was warm, and since there weren’t any specific instructions for dress code, she took her best shot.
Since the 33-year-old Minneapolis woman knew that it was going to be at least 90° that day, she decided to wear a strapless, formfitting mini dress and heels. When she showed up at the reception, many of the guests made it clear that she chose poorly and she ended up with some physical and verbal bullying.
Kruger went on Instagram to share her experiences of what happened that evening. As a result of her choice of dress, she said that ‘so many women’ were rude to her.
One of the guests apparently got a ‘dare from her friends’ and came up to slap her on the rump. Another spilled ‘a full beer’ on her arms.
“Just one of maaaaany acts of kindness of the night!” Krueger wrote sarcastically.
Even though she almost packed it in for the evening, she thought that she would stay and enjoy the party. By her own admission, she has ‘thick skin’ and is “able to laugh at things and not take it personally.” She also said that her husband and good friends stood by her side and helped her to keep her head up during the difficult moments.
“Regardless, we had one heck of s fun night and no “grown” women’s comments/glares could bring me down as a wedding guest,” she concluded the post.
This bodybuilder decided to go public with the story because she wanted everyone to remember that adults can also be bullies. She also wanted to send the message that you should ‘stand up for yourself’.
She wrote the following on Facebook:
“Let this be a lesson to everyone. Your actions have consequences. People deserve respect, no matter what they are wearing. When these things happen to you, you have the RIGHT to talk about them, even when the person in the wrong tells you your ‘story’ is BS. Stand up for yourself. Don’t be a quiet lamb. Be confident. Be strong. At the end of the day, know who you are, so when someone (or thousands of people) try to tell you different…you know you’re right and they are wrong.”
She also started the #KreuegerKindness hashtag to encourage people to stop the shaming and bullying.
“I’m going to actively make it a priority to do good things for other women, every single day from here on out,” she wrote on Instagram. “I’m hoping to inspire others to do the same, just as I have with fitness journey.”
In her words, “anything as simple as a complimenting a women daily, buying them a coffee/lunch, taking the time to speak to someone who’s in a hard place, volunteering with girls who have been bullied, getting to know women deeper than surface level and making a point myself to not judge a book by its cover on a daily basis.” We hope that her efforts make a difference.
