If there is one thing on the mind of many new mothers, it is breastfeeding. It seems as if there is much to consider, such as, what happens if you are out and need to pump? Will people be judgmental if you do?
We live in a world that has not quite caught up in the area of breastfeeding. We often hear about people judging mothers for breastfeeding in public and it has caused many women to be uncomfortable with the subject.
One woman in Iowa, Jackie Johnson-Smith was looking for a place to celebrate her birthday. She is a stay at home mom with 2 older children and one 12 month old, who was still breastfeeding. She wanted to choose a restaurant that wouldn’t shut her out because of her choice of breastfeeding.
“I usually don’t go downtown for dinner because lots of places aren’t family-friendly but I had heard good things about Fong’s,” Johnson-Smith said.
She decided to go for it but when the time came, she was nervous about actually doing it in public.
“I usually don’t like to breastfeed in public because people can be judgmental,” Jackie said.“The waitress kept walking by, and I was worried she didn’t want me nursing in the restaurant.”
As it turned out, the waitress was not judging Jackie, she wanted to praise her for what she was doing.
When they got the bill, it included a handwritten note: ‘I bought one of your pizzas. Please thank your wife for breastfeeding!’
“I was in total shock and started tearing up,” Jackie said. “After dealing with people’s reactions for so long, it was like the universe was giving me a pat on the back. I was too stunned to go back inside and thank the waitress.”
Jackie went on Facebook to talk about her feelings and the kind act that she and her family experienced.
“I have breastfed three children…I have breastfed them in a countless number of places both pleasant and unpleasant, discreetly and out in the open. I have gotten many looks and stares, but tonight erases any negativity I have ever received. I ate at Fongs for the first time tonight. Having a fussy baby I nursed him for awhile in the booth and eventually left the table early as to not disrupt the restaurant. The waitress gave this receipt to my husband. I was speechless and emotional. Although I don’t need a pat on the back for feeding my child, it sure felt amazing. It is amazing how we women can make each other feel when we empower each other.”
Any mother will tell you that raising a child is difficult. It gets even harder when people judge women for their decisions in life.
We are happy that this waitress decided to step up to the plate and support Jackie. In the end, she was able to enjoy her meal and still take care of her child in the way nature intended.