Recently, an unnamed woman, believed to be from the US, has revealed somewhat of a bizarre story when she shared how her new boyfriend refused to see her again, after accusing her of ‘catfishing’ him when he saw her for the first time without makeup covering up her acne.
The anonymous twenty-year-old took to the forum Reddit where she explained she has hormonal acne, and tends to breakout on her cheeks and chin. She had been covering up the spots during the six dates with her new love interest, but while on a weekend trip away with friends, decided to ditch the makeup.
“At first, he didn’t say anything, just looked at me a bit weird. When we were alone, he just told me that he didn’t know I had acne like that. After that, he’s been acting distant the whole trip,” she explained.
“When we got home that night, he said that it would be for the best to stop seeing each other because he doesn’t like me anymore. As the very last thing, he said that I shouldn’t lead people on like that.”
In the ‘Am I the a**hole’ forum of Reddit, she shared her post: “I’m 20 years old. Me and that guy (also 20) have been on 6 dates before the incident and everything was going well before that. My acne is caused by my hormonal issues. These are the most accurate pics I could take – some of the spots are a bit redder in reality, but it’s not a dramatic difference. I don’t have breakouts on my forehead or anywhere else on my body. I usually cover up my acne with make-up – however, that’s the only thing I do on my face make-up wise, so I don’t look like a completely different person when I’m make-up less. This weekend, me, the guy and a few of our mutual friends went on a backpacking trip and he saw me with no make-up for the first time.”
But apparently the woman’s natural look was too much for her date, who continually looked at her “weird” throughout the weekend.
Eventually he brutally dumped her, explaining that he suddenly didn’t “like” her and felt he’d been led on.
“I feel like I dodged a bullet here, but at the same time, it haunts me that he thinks I’m catfishing people and I wonder if anyone else feels the same way,” she said.
“I wear make-up because I’m not the biggest fan of my acne and because it makes me feel a bit more confident.”
She went on to reveal the guy had split up with his ex because she changed her hairstyle.
She added, “I asked mutuals about that guy and apparently he broke up with his ex because she cut her hair short. Just thought you might be interested in knowing. So yeah, definitely dodged a bullet. I made this thread because he told me that I lead him on and that I’m catfishing guys by putting make-up on. I didn’t feel like I’ve done something inherently wrong, but a lot of people around me seemed to agree with him on this – but since make-up is generally frowned upon where I live, I wanted opinions from a more diverse sample of people, if you will. Just thought I’d clarify, because some people thought that I was seeking validation. Trust me, if I wanted validation I’d go to my loved ones.”
Other Reddit users have jumped to the woman’s defense, agreeing with her that she’s not catfishing anyone by simply applying cosmetics to her skin.
One commenter wrote on the thread, “You’re definitely not catfishing anyone by wearing make-up. I mean acne isn’t a huge deal for normal people, potential boyfriend sounds like a really shallow guy to break up over something like that.”
Another said, “If you get with someone and expect them to never have a blemish or some pimples, you have unrealistic expectations and are asking to be let down forever.”
A third expressed, “Yeah this guy is gonna have a real fun life with standards that high.”
A separate reader called out the guy’s personality by writing, ‘It’s not really that his standards are high, it’s that they’re spectacularly unrealistic. He is a controlling a**hole who is gonna make some lucky lady very miserable someday.”
While another Reddit user posted, “Good lord my wife breaks out constantly even at 39. Who the fuck cares? Been happy for almost ten years and she still gets subconscious about it even though I don’t give a f**k.”
A separate Reddit reader, who also battles with acne, added, “Dude seriously. I’ve had acne since puberty, so like 15 years. It’s just how my face is. If anyone acted like that now as an adult, I’d be in awe of their stupidity/naivety. Luckily once everyone grows up a bit, acne stops being such a weird breaking point, but damn do these posts p**s me off.”
It’s nice to see the woman receiving a lot of positive support. The post has attracted a lot of attention, with a total of 1,800 comments being added so far. What do you guys think about all this?